Meeting people at LDS weddings
"You must meet a lot of girls at weddings."
"Not really"
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Well first of all for me personally ... I'm kinda working.
And though many brides try to set me up (which is fine) I still try to not be that guy, my role is different.
Second... (I do a lot of LDS weddings and this is my theory.)
Weddings are known in popular culture to be a good place to pick up on girls. I would submit not so in the LDS culture.
- LDS people have lots of avenues to meet people.
- There is a stigma that everyone is going to pressure the unmarried person when at weddings so there's that push-back going on. (You can't make me like or wanna eat the delicious Ice Cream)
- Yep lots of push-back... if people say weddings are a place to meet people then I want to make sure I'm not one of the statistics.
Same kind of people also fight meeting people at singles wards, dating their home teacher, meeting people at dances or being set up. - The age group is generally younger.
- Everyone is already married.
- The schedule isn't set up to emphasize younger people socializing with other younger people.
I'm not saying these are good things... just stating what I perceive to be the case.
And that's my short thought on that subject. Feel free to state your additional theories... or theories to the contrary.
Glee is a Moral Enigma
Glee goes from having no stance on principles in one episode... to morally repulsive on another episode... to being quite inspiring in another. Sometimes all 3 in the same episode.
And I just can't figure it out. I ask myself: what guides them in what they do and the writing for their show?
Perhaps it's this mixture effect that is the most worriesome of all.
Let me explain: They show very inspiring scenes of togetherness and reconciliation, non-opression of others, they show how to be unique and creative and several other very commendable principles.
It worries me that people see that great stuff and think that ALL of what they show is commendable.
Sometimes they show what a character is doing is obviously misguided but more often they don't.
And while some people can watch and make correct judgements for themselves about what is good and bad, I fear the typical audience takes it all in.
The moment I think the show has some strong stance on Adultery, Hedonism and Homosexuality they'll do another show which I can't follow them on.
Materialism is practically worshipped on one show only to have a song bashing it on another show.
In a way I guess of kind of like the fresh method in which they throw it all out there and say this is how life is... full of ambiguos and hard decisions in picking apart a situation and figuring out where the truth ends and the lies start.
But make no mistake it's full of both... lies and truths. A dangerous combination as I think many of us know.
But to those willing to think the issues through and center themselves on true principles it can be a show that could be beneficial. And yes probably destructive to others.
Being inspired is a talent to learn
I find it so very impressive the power of words, of lyrics of quotes.
To express what's in one's heart is a talent.
Real stability for children
Disclaimer
So turns out I was all fiery on the subject and wanted to be all fiery... to get the juices running and people thinking.
But either people agree anyway or the people that don't agree would just be set into a combatative mode.
So really what did I do?
I still believe we should be passionate about the subject.
I'm not a father.
But I was a child.
And sometimes truths/ideals are just what they are.
"I'm waiting to have kids"
I would just like to comment on something I hear people say often, being a wedding photographer and around lots of people getting married.
They say: they want to wait to have kids until they are financially more well off.
My response...
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Yes I'm stirring the fire and getting you believers of this flawed logic riled up... I know this.
But think through things {Edited}
Maybe you SHOULD wait to have kids. 
Do you really think the best kids are those who's parents have the most money?
Do you really think that raising a kid without turmoil or hardship makes for the best environment for a kid with good morals and strong character?
I'm not saying plan on being poor!
Do you understand where I'm coming from?
And if you can't understand what I'm trying to point out and the prophets who said don't make up excuses as to why you don't want to be obedient to the command to bring forth kids into this world... then yes I support you in you not having kids yet.
In fact remember how enough is never enough... believe that junk too.
Enough IS Enough
Don't go with the sound ideal that Hugh Nibley taught when asked how much money or stuff is "Enough" when he said "Enough IS Enough" (Sarcasm intended)
What children need
But seriously... sometimes what they need is to see a lighthouse in a storm or a boulder in a rushing river.
They need to see the example of you the parents weathering the storm and being an immovable and stalwart example no matter the hardships. That is among the best things they could ever experience.
{Deleted to be nicer}
I'm sure you know how I feel by now.
And if you want to say... But Scott... It's hard in this economy and this world and it's getting more expensive to raise kids.
Point hasn't been gotten!!
Well when you do get your magic riches and weath... I hope you pick a DOG to raise instead of a child. {half kidding... yes i'm trying to include humor...}
What it all comes down to:
You can have a plan for life… (lets hope you have a good one)
But the lord might have another… and if you’re too stuborn to change it up. Sucks for you.
May i include… that perhaps this means you are meant to wait for a long time to have kids.
I’m not questing your choice of when to have kids… it’s this pretend logic you give to cover your selfishness (if it is the case)
Can I get someone to back me up?
Oh ok you can have a turn President Benson:
“Mothers who enjoy good health, have your children and have them early. And, husbands, always be considerate of your wives in the bearing of children. Do not curtail the number of children for personal or selfish reasons. Material possessions, social convenience, and so-called professional advantages are nothing compared to a righteous posterity…
Young mothers and fathers, with all my heart I counsel you not to postpone having your children, being co-creators with our Father in Heaven.
Do not use the reasoning of the world, such as, ‘We’ll wait until we can better afford having children, until we are more secure, until John has completed his education, until he has a better-paying job, until we have a larger home, until we’ve obtained a few of the material conveniences,’ and on and on.
This is the reasoning of the world, and is not pleasing in the sight of God. Mothers who enjoy good health, have your children and have them early. And, husbands, always be considerate of your wives in the bearing of children.” (Ezra Taft Benson, “To the Mothers in Zion,” Parents’ Fireside, Salt Lake City, Utah, 22 February 1987.)
Emphasis added
Don’t start coming up with your thinking as to why the world thinks this foolishness.
Start thinking… why did a prophet of God think this wise counsel?
What were his reasons?
The answer you find will be enlightening
The "Don't spam twitter" debate is off track
The "Don't spam twitter" debate is off track
People should know that I love it when you tell me when your new blogs and podcasts are up! I'm afraid the backlash will make twitter devoid of use... But obviously don't overdo it or actually spam... such as direct message people. Because unwanted messages are spam.
When I follow someone I expect to hear about what they're doing... including what they're writing!!
By the way i'm using twitter... i should probably add a plugin for it and stuff. @jarvie
